START OVER KING: Put Nothing Past Anyone...
People get real caught up with the people that are close to them. When you have a best friend, or a sibling, or a significant other you find it hard to believe they can do wrong. I don't mean telling a white lie or not showing up to a party when he/she said they would. I mean when people believe the one they really care for just absolutely cannot do something devastating. I don't mean to burst anyone's bubble but that person you look at as flawless actually is flawed or better yet has the ability to be flawed. This is how expectations don't get met because in your mind your thinking "no he would never do this" or "I know she would never do that". I'm not saying look forward to it but don't forget that we all are human and we make mistakes and we are pretty complex. Although you would like to believe you fully know a person, you don't, so always keep an open mind. Nobody is beyond what you may think they are, you wouldn't want to find out the hard way.Have something to say? Speak on it.
I have been hurt beyond belief...but you can't allow the bad to steal from the good. people lie...at the least that much we can agree on but while my heart has been shatter I don't know how many times...I am still willing to love again. there is good people, and bad people then there is the why the heck didn't your mom get an abortion people.
ReplyDeletePeople just have to be aware that we are all human. All these expectations we have of each other are sometimes realistic, sometimes not. It doesn't matter how consistent you know someone to be, because the very nature of being human is inconsistency, I feel. It's getting over that realization and just plunging into society and relationships, knowing that unpredictability is there, that makes living so... interesting.
ReplyDeleteI believe that a portion of it has to be that we all have an innate sense to want that significant other, that sibling, that bestie to be the paragon of fortitude, decency, morality, etc., because portions of us do not want to be wrong or disappointed. We formulate these standards because when we let our guard down and let people close to us, we do not want to be hurt and feel humiliated by being blindsided by deceit.
ReplyDeleteThis notion of being more lenient to our close friends also stems from humans also wanting to be correct, or that at least you are more correct than another person. We do not want others to prove us wrong by the choices of who we let close to us.
I agree with all three of your comments in someway. People have to stay aware that we all are humans and we do get sidetracked sometimes because we don't want to see the other person as someone who would make such mistakes.
ReplyDeleteIts all about keeping your awareness alert because you can get hurt either way but the hurt will be less painful if you already have an understanding of how us humans operate and that is like Green Randa said, unpredictable.